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Abraham Lincoln said, “We can com-
plain because rose bushes have thorns, or
rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
Roses are a stunningly beautiful flower
representative of beauty, love and passion.
A passing glance can bring a smile. I often
treat my self to a dozen roses just because.
But roses do have thorns and there is
always the possibility that you can pinch
yourself on a thorn and that would hurt.
You could technically decide not to buy
roses because of that potential pinch. You
could focus on the thorns and miss the
beauty that is the rose.
You can apply this same concept to life
situations and how you perceive things
around you. Basically it comes down to
how you look at things. When you look at
a rose bush, what shows up for you? Do
you notice the beautiful flower or the
thorny stem?
Where is your focus? On the possibility
of a pinch or the appreciation of the beau-
ty in front of you?
The choice is always yours. Always. You
get to choose your mood and it is as simple
as a switch in your thinking. Pinchy thorns
and beautiful roses are both available
options; both show up on the same flower.
Every situation that presents itself to you
shows up with two ways to look at it, pos-
itively (rosey) or negatively (thorny). It's up
to you which one you choose and that
choice affects how you feel.
I had an example of this when my per-
sonal training son put me thru a workout.
On this day, the workout was challenging.
I wasn't in the mood for the push. I practi-
cally cried like a baby through the whole
thing. Not only didn’t I cry (that probably
would have been better) but I bitched, and
moaned and complained.
He commented in his annoyed tone that
he reverts to when clients give him negativ-
ity and excuses and said, “Ma, you have a
choice. Do you want to work out or not?”
Sporting this bad attitude did not make
the workout any easier. It actually made me
struggle more. I would have been much
more effective in the moment had I smiled
through it, shut my mouth and changed
my way of thinking. The truth is we get to
choose what we bring to the situation,
what kind of attitude we wear and how we
show up. We can make anything as beau-
tiful as a blooming sweet rose or as scary as
getting pierced by a bunch of needling
thorns.
The lesson here is to step fully into your
life bearing roses and enjoying every expe-
rience that comes knocking on the door of
your one very precious life. Be open to see-
ing life and it’s experiences as beautiful les-
sons that you learn from. Don’t define or
judge them. Every experience is an oppor-
tunity for improvement and growth. Every
experience takes your life to the next level.
The more you fully participate, the more joy
you’ll have and the prettier things look.
Here are 3 tips for making a shift:
1.
PUT ON ROSE COLORED GLASS-
ES...
If you see the negative in something,
flip it. What does the opposite look like?
Focus on that. Reframe the story that you
are telling in your mind and find a better
one. Find a reason to be grateful for the sit-
uation exactly as it is.
2.
FIX YOUR FACE...
Stop frowning
and turn up the corners of your mouth.
When you consciously and constantly put a
smile on your face, you instantly change
your mood. You snap right out whatever
negative feelings are moving through your
body. You may even start laughing which
will shift your mood even more. Every few
hours, throughout the day, stop for a
moment, take notice of the position of
your face and fix it.
3.
REMEMBER WHAT MOM SAID...
“
If you have nothing nice to say, don't say
anything.” Mom was right again about this
one. Zip it up when something derogatory
or negative is going to shoot out of it. Hit
the delete button on the computer of your
brain. Allow the thought to come in and let
it pass, gently floating away as quickly as it
came without giving any energy to it.
These simple tips will change what hap-
pens in any situation. When you show up
and bring your best to the gym (or any sit-
uation) you’ll have a wonderful experience
and more powerful results.
Next time my son offers to train me at
the gym, I’m showing up in my rose col-
ored glasses and fixed face. What adjust-
ment do you need to make to reframe your
old thorny story and come out smelling like
a rose?
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