Women in Careers Post Divorce
Divorce can be a very stressful time for women. A considerable number of women have not worked for many years and will now need to become employed in some manner based on the limitations of their divorce settlement as well as their financial needs. Even if you have not worked and have been in a long marriage taking care of children, finances will not often afford you the ability to continue in your same lifestyle while not working.
Hope is not lost, however. Keep a positive attitude. You can now look to see what skills you have and understand how to use them in the work force. The work force and employers are very forgiving of women who have not worked in order to raise children, and you should not feel afraid to embark on a new path. If you have skills from having worked in the past, now is the time to get them up to speed. Take a look at your skills. If you don’t have many, then look to acquire them. Think about what you would like to do, and look at the skills or training you need to acquire to do this job. Most divorce settlements will allow for monies for education in order to assist the woman in being able to function well in the job market.
Think about things that you do normally and naturally in your life. For example, you are probably good at time management, organization, and negotiating skills based on your experience as a parent. Assess your skills and interests. Think about who inspires you.
Set your objectives. Make a plan of action and time line which may include education and job training. Work up your contacts, support groups, and networks. Have a positive attitude and look forward to the future. Do not be afraid to reach out to other people in your life whether they are mothers, teachers of your children, or people you meet or know in your daily life. You can take a reasonable approach, and make one contact per day, apply for one job per day, or look into schools. Structure your time to job search and network. You will be good at doing this for yourself, just as you have probably done this for your family.
You will ultimately feel satisfaction in your accomplishments. You may start out in the work force at a basic level, but if you keep at it, are goal directed and focused, you will achieve success and feel rewarded and fulfilled. Remember that you are doing something new, and so you need to be patient with yourself. If you are struggling, you can always reach out to a coach or therapist to assist you.
Dr. Robin Greene is licensed psychologist who specializes in couples counseling, divorce coaching and womens’ issues. She can be reached at email@example.com or 201-993-1583. Visit her website drrobingreene.com.